My Search - Part 2

So as I posted about before, I have been searching for my birth siblings. Although I was raised as an only child, I am actually one of 8. I have known only one of them, my brother. My birth father had three other children besides me, two boys and one girl. My birth mother had four other children besides me, a boy and three unknown. Also remember that I was adopted by my birth mother's twin sister. So I remained in the family, but do not have much of a relationship with my birth mom.

I started with my birth father's side of the family first because I had a lot more information about him. I figured it would be easier, and it was. It took only a few days before I found them. I first spoke to his mother, my grandmother. That is still strange to say. Then I spoke to one of my aunts. Sadly, how I found them was through an arrest record pertaining to my oldest brother. It turns out he is kind of a mess and I have not spoken to him. I don't know that I will. I don't know if he would be interested. Plus, he is into drugs and I can not invite that into my world. The next brother is doing well. He is married with six children. He is a bit pensive about the whole thing though and I have yet to speak to him. I chatted with his wife a bit at first, but now nothing. I have been told it will take him awhile to come around. I hope he does at some point though. Next comes my sister! I can now say that, my sister, without sounding like I am trying to sound out a word in a foreign language. I have talked to her quite a bit. She is great! We are SO much alike. We were talking quite a bit for awhile, but now it has slowed down a lot. It is hard to turn strangers into family. I figure it will come over time.

Next I started searching for my birth mother's other children. She kept the youngest boy. He is the only one she kept. He just turned 21. I do have a relationship with him, but don't have much info on the rest. All I have is that two were born before me and one after. The one after was a girl and her father was African-American. I don't even have firm dates of birth. So I have added my name to adoptee lists all over. I hit a few dead ends. I did find one girl who sounds promising. She fits the where, the time frame, the sex and race. What little info she has about her birth mother also fits. I reached out to her and we talked a bit online. We were set to talk on the phone, but she got nervous. Now nothing. I told her to call me when she was ready to talk and we could go from there, but I have not heard anything from her. That was more than a month ago.

Well that's it I'm afraid. I have hit a dead end for now. I am trying to save some money to do DNA and sgn up with some of the sites that cost money. I set up a GoFundMe page, but no luck so far. The link is on the right side of my page here.